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They will most likely catch feelings.
The number one rule in life is that everyone, at some point, will want something they can’t have; and sadly your girl or guy counts. But think about it, how do you normally become attracted to someone? By talking to them daily, by laughing with them, by sharing and/or talking about our days with them. You essentially begin a bond with them, you look forward to their text messages and hearing if he/she got the job promotion. As innocent as that sounds, the flip side is that you get so comfortable with them that you may not be as open about the "not so sunny" parts of your relationship.
Investing your time in someone else.
One of the key factors of any relationship is investing time in them. As stated above, you talk every day, you see each other often and share daily adventures (whether in-person or even just in texts). But what you are doing is putting time into someone else; making them feel special and meaningful to you and sometimes that’s misconstrued and seen as flirting. Let’s be honest: you wouldn’t want to think of your significant other making someone else feel special, so why should you? You are giving a piece of yourself to someone else, a piece that your partner should have. Not some guy or girl that you are just friends with. When you are with someone, you should want them to have every part of you and not risk giving someone else a part of you that could end up destroying your relationship.
We started as friends too”
How many times have you heard someone say this to you directly or a friend tell you this about their partner? And usually we just brush it off but let’s be honest, it holds more power than we like to give it credit. You and your partner both began as two friends who one day realized you had more in common than most friends do and decided to go into a deeper relationship. So, it's only natural if your partner feels threatened by another person because no one else should be on that comfort level with you. Today, people don't care if you're "taken" in a relationship or not — we live in a generation of hook-ups and homewreckers.
Someone will get hurt.
Whether you intend to do it or not, someone is going to get hurt. Maybe even multiple people. You have three scenarios:
You hurt your partner.
They find out that you are talking to someone else less than a significant other but more than a friend and that damages your trust. OR, they decide to end your relationship which hurts them because they really cared.
. You hurt the other person.
You realize that you don’t need to be talking to anyone else on the level you’ve been texting them and so you end your weird friendship-y "thing."
You hurt yourself.
Whether you lose your significant other or the other person, you are getting hurt (you should’ve thought of that, honestly). You are either going to lose someone that you are in a committed relationship with and have bonded with on multiple levels. OR, you are losing a person you felt was a dear friend and that sucks and hurts you. Sometimes you might even lose both people so that would be even worse and really hurt you because you’d have no one left.
excerpt from:theodysseyline
The number one rule in life is that everyone, at some point, will want something they can’t have; and sadly your girl or guy counts. But think about it, how do you normally become attracted to someone? By talking to them daily, by laughing with them, by sharing and/or talking about our days with them. You essentially begin a bond with them, you look forward to their text messages and hearing if he/she got the job promotion. As innocent as that sounds, the flip side is that you get so comfortable with them that you may not be as open about the "not so sunny" parts of your relationship.
Investing your time in someone else.
One of the key factors of any relationship is investing time in them. As stated above, you talk every day, you see each other often and share daily adventures (whether in-person or even just in texts). But what you are doing is putting time into someone else; making them feel special and meaningful to you and sometimes that’s misconstrued and seen as flirting. Let’s be honest: you wouldn’t want to think of your significant other making someone else feel special, so why should you? You are giving a piece of yourself to someone else, a piece that your partner should have. Not some guy or girl that you are just friends with. When you are with someone, you should want them to have every part of you and not risk giving someone else a part of you that could end up destroying your relationship.
We started as friends too”
How many times have you heard someone say this to you directly or a friend tell you this about their partner? And usually we just brush it off but let’s be honest, it holds more power than we like to give it credit. You and your partner both began as two friends who one day realized you had more in common than most friends do and decided to go into a deeper relationship. So, it's only natural if your partner feels threatened by another person because no one else should be on that comfort level with you. Today, people don't care if you're "taken" in a relationship or not — we live in a generation of hook-ups and homewreckers.
Someone will get hurt.
Whether you intend to do it or not, someone is going to get hurt. Maybe even multiple people. You have three scenarios:
You hurt your partner.
They find out that you are talking to someone else less than a significant other but more than a friend and that damages your trust. OR, they decide to end your relationship which hurts them because they really cared.
. You hurt the other person.
You realize that you don’t need to be talking to anyone else on the level you’ve been texting them and so you end your weird friendship-y "thing."
You hurt yourself.
Whether you lose your significant other or the other person, you are getting hurt (you should’ve thought of that, honestly). You are either going to lose someone that you are in a committed relationship with and have bonded with on multiple levels. OR, you are losing a person you felt was a dear friend and that sucks and hurts you. Sometimes you might even lose both people so that would be even worse and really hurt you because you’d have no one left.
excerpt from:theodysseyline
