How to Get Your Wife to Love You Again
It is easy to get caught up in the busy-ness of daily life and forget to make time to cherish a marriage as much as it should be cherished. If you find yourself in a rough ρá†ch with your wife, understand that this is normal, especially if you've been married for many years. There are many things you can do to help get your marriage back on the right track and get your wife to love you again. Try some of these steps to let your wife know you want a happy marriage for both of you.
Part One of Four:
Identifying the Problems in Your Marriage
1.Think about your relationship objectively. Take some time to think about the reasons you were initially attracted to your wife and what you love about her. Think about what attracted her to you and how you might've changed over the years. It can be easy to lose the spark after many years of marriage, but you need to think about whether or not you're actively making her unhappy in your marriage. Maybe she does things that drive you crazy, but try to think about what you could do to make things better for her.
2.Talk to your wife about how you could make her happier. Tell your wife that you realize the two of you are in a rut and you want to make things better. Ask her what you could do to change the course you are both on. Let her know that you want to invest in your marriage and that you are ready to change if necessary.
3.Go to couples counseling. If you and your wife seem to be fighting a lot, it might be a good idea to go to couples counseling together. Find a counselor that you are both comfortable with and start attending sessions. This can be a great way to talk about your problems with the help of a mediator that makes you both feel safe enough to talk about your feelings. They can also recommend methods and activities you can use to help you both improve your relationship and renew your levels of intimacy.
4.Make a list of things you could do differently on a daily basis. Think about all of the things your wife does for you and write them down. Seeing them all lined up together might surprise you. Include things like household chores, running errands, managing household finances, working to make money for your family, etc. Remember to include little things that are easier to take for granted like paying the cable bill every month so you don't have to remember to do it or replacing the batteries in your alarm clock so you won't be late for work.
Then think about all the things you do for your wife and how you might add to that list. Write them all down and try to remember to do them every day. Include things like starting a load of laundry or letting her pick what television show you watch together.
It is easy to get caught up in the busy-ness of daily life and forget to make time to cherish a marriage as much as it should be cherished. If you find yourself in a rough ρá†ch with your wife, understand that this is normal, especially if you've been married for many years. There are many things you can do to help get your marriage back on the right track and get your wife to love you again. Try some of these steps to let your wife know you want a happy marriage for both of you.
Part One of Four:
Identifying the Problems in Your Marriage
1.Think about your relationship objectively. Take some time to think about the reasons you were initially attracted to your wife and what you love about her. Think about what attracted her to you and how you might've changed over the years. It can be easy to lose the spark after many years of marriage, but you need to think about whether or not you're actively making her unhappy in your marriage. Maybe she does things that drive you crazy, but try to think about what you could do to make things better for her.
2.Talk to your wife about how you could make her happier. Tell your wife that you realize the two of you are in a rut and you want to make things better. Ask her what you could do to change the course you are both on. Let her know that you want to invest in your marriage and that you are ready to change if necessary.
3.Go to couples counseling. If you and your wife seem to be fighting a lot, it might be a good idea to go to couples counseling together. Find a counselor that you are both comfortable with and start attending sessions. This can be a great way to talk about your problems with the help of a mediator that makes you both feel safe enough to talk about your feelings. They can also recommend methods and activities you can use to help you both improve your relationship and renew your levels of intimacy.
4.Make a list of things you could do differently on a daily basis. Think about all of the things your wife does for you and write them down. Seeing them all lined up together might surprise you. Include things like household chores, running errands, managing household finances, working to make money for your family, etc. Remember to include little things that are easier to take for granted like paying the cable bill every month so you don't have to remember to do it or replacing the batteries in your alarm clock so you won't be late for work.
Then think about all the things you do for your wife and how you might add to that list. Write them all down and try to remember to do them every day. Include things like starting a load of laundry or letting her pick what television show you watch together.