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Have you ever felt such intense feelings sa isang tao and wondered if you'te fakking in love?Yung tipong masaya ka kapag kausap at kasama sya.Yung feeling mo special ka sa kanya.Its indeed ry confusing though,if true love na ba ti or sadyang crush mo lang ang isang tao.Most times di natin nanotice na obsessed na pala tayo sa isang tao.So we should be aware of the differences.Para na din in the end miiwasan natin ang masaktan ng todo.
Do you ever find yourself doing reckless things in order to be with this person?Yung tipong lahat na lang gagawin mo mapansin ka lang ni crush and you feel like your actions are wonderfully romantic, like you’re in a movie and running through airport security to win back the love of your life. If this impulsiveness begins to interfere with your other obligations and relationships, causing you to become unreliable and inconsiderate to everyone else besides your crush, this is a sign that you need to step back and try to think more rationally about the consequences of your actions. In contrast, true love makes you more steadfast and mature in all aspects of your life.
Do you like this person because of your shared interests? Perhaps pareho kayo ng hobbies,pinapanuod na movie,games,books etc.. On the surface, parang feel mo desrtined na kayo at perfect na sya sa iyo.. But true love goes beyond that enjoyable moments and reaches for a connection based on a shared vulnerability with each other. Opening up to someone in this way and admitting our feelings can reveal our deepest fears, goals, and values.
Do you get butterflies in your stomach when you’re around this person? It do happens most times diba? kapag nag iimagine tayo.. While true love can also make you feel intensely happy, the shyness and nervousness that you feel when you’re crushing on someone can prevent you from forming any meaningful connection with them. If you don’t feel that you can be open and honest, it’s not love.
Lagi ba sya sumasagi sa isip mo? Does it feel like you spend most of your energy and emotion on them? When everything else seems unimportant compared to this person, you may lose enjoyment and enthusiasm for your work, hobbies, and other loved ones. You feel lonely and out of touch with the rest of your life.
On the other hand, true love is an exchange of energy and emotion that serves and encourages both of you. True love inspires you to be connected and fulfilled.
Yunh kompleto ba ang day mo kapag may message galinh sa kanya? When you spend time together, do you feel ecstatic? When someone can make you feel happy so quickly, often they can also make you feel sad just as quickly. If di sila nagpaparamdam man lang sayo ,feeling mo broken ka na agad.
Crushing on someone gives you these emotional highs and lows that are difficult, sometimes impossible, to manage. They’re based on inconsequential things. True love is consistent, and centered around a solid connection that doesn’t require constant reassurances in order to feel real.
Do you find yourself constantly analyzing your interactions with this person? Maybe you replay conversations in your head, or closely observe everything they do when you’re together. Sometimes, na iimagine natin yung future natin sa isang tao.
If you’re always second-guessing this person’s words and behavior, it’s a sign that you don’t feel the assurance of true love in your relationship.
Have you ever taken up new activities, or started demonstrating certain behaviors, because you thought that doing so would bring you closer to this person? Perhaps you might have even changed the way you look – dressing differently, or cutting your hair to fit their style and make them notice you.
If you’re trying to do the same things for this person even though you don’t enjoy them, you’re trying to win their approval at the cost of your own self-esteem and identity. True love makes you want to change, but in a way that improves the things you love about yourself.
Are you constantly doing things for this person? Nagbibigay ka pa madalas ng gifts or ikaw nagbabayad kapag lumalabas kayo?While true love also makes you enjoy doing things for another person, these actions are reciprocated by your partner. There is a sense of give=and=take with true love. When you’re being overly giving, the relationship becomes draining and unhealthy for you.
When you first develop feelings for someone else, it’s fun and exciting. You feel happy and energized, and it can seem just like true love. However, the truth is that love always takes time to grow. True love is difficult, because it has to be resilient enough to survive the differences and disappointments you’ll encounter along the way to building a life together.
Crushes are all about enjoying someone’s company and being happy when things are going well. True love is constant, no matter what the circumstances are.
Ultimately, no matter how giving and self-sacrificing we may feel when we’re crushing on someone, the truth is that crushes are more about what we feel than how the other person feels. Kapag may crush tayo sa isang tao we mostly engage in a desperate behavior, making us try unreasonable things to change their mind if they’ve already made it clear that they don’t share our feelings.
True love is more concerned with the other person’s feelings. We respect their wishes, and we want to make them feel appreciated and understood.
Hopefully, this has helped you decide if what you’re experiencing is true love, or just a mere crush. Yes,we can't denu the fact that spending time with your crush and dreaming of being with them can feel wonderful, but if it can’t grow into love, you need to let them go. Doing so will make you free to grow as a person and find true love with someone who will make you feel understood and valued for who you are.
excerpt & paraphrase from Truelovetips
1. Crushes are impulsive; true love is mature.
Do you ever find yourself doing reckless things in order to be with this person?Yung tipong lahat na lang gagawin mo mapansin ka lang ni crush and you feel like your actions are wonderfully romantic, like you’re in a movie and running through airport security to win back the love of your life. If this impulsiveness begins to interfere with your other obligations and relationships, causing you to become unreliable and inconsiderate to everyone else besides your crush, this is a sign that you need to step back and try to think more rationally about the consequences of your actions. In contrast, true love makes you more steadfast and mature in all aspects of your life.
2. Crushes are based on shallow similarities; true love is based on deeper connections.
Do you like this person because of your shared interests? Perhaps pareho kayo ng hobbies,pinapanuod na movie,games,books etc.. On the surface, parang feel mo desrtined na kayo at perfect na sya sa iyo.. But true love goes beyond that enjoyable moments and reaches for a connection based on a shared vulnerability with each other. Opening up to someone in this way and admitting our feelings can reveal our deepest fears, goals, and values.
3. Crushes make you feel insecure; true love makes you feel comfortable.
Do you get butterflies in your stomach when you’re around this person? It do happens most times diba? kapag nag iimagine tayo.. While true love can also make you feel intensely happy, the shyness and nervousness that you feel when you’re crushing on someone can prevent you from forming any meaningful connection with them. If you don’t feel that you can be open and honest, it’s not love.
4. Crushes make you feel isolated; true love makes you more connected with the world.
Lagi ba sya sumasagi sa isip mo? Does it feel like you spend most of your energy and emotion on them? When everything else seems unimportant compared to this person, you may lose enjoyment and enthusiasm for your work, hobbies, and other loved ones. You feel lonely and out of touch with the rest of your life.
On the other hand, true love is an exchange of energy and emotion that serves and encourages both of you. True love inspires you to be connected and fulfilled.
5. Crushes make you feel extreme highs and lows; true love feels stable.
Yunh kompleto ba ang day mo kapag may message galinh sa kanya? When you spend time together, do you feel ecstatic? When someone can make you feel happy so quickly, often they can also make you feel sad just as quickly. If di sila nagpaparamdam man lang sayo ,feeling mo broken ka na agad.
Crushing on someone gives you these emotional highs and lows that are difficult, sometimes impossible, to manage. They’re based on inconsequential things. True love is consistent, and centered around a solid connection that doesn’t require constant reassurances in order to feel real.
6. Crushes make you overthink; true love lets you stay focused.
Do you find yourself constantly analyzing your interactions with this person? Maybe you replay conversations in your head, or closely observe everything they do when you’re together. Sometimes, na iimagine natin yung future natin sa isang tao.
If you’re always second-guessing this person’s words and behavior, it’s a sign that you don’t feel the assurance of true love in your relationship.
7. Crushes make you want to change to fit the other person; true love makes you grow into the best version of yourself.
Have you ever taken up new activities, or started demonstrating certain behaviors, because you thought that doing so would bring you closer to this person? Perhaps you might have even changed the way you look – dressing differently, or cutting your hair to fit their style and make them notice you.
If you’re trying to do the same things for this person even though you don’t enjoy them, you’re trying to win their approval at the cost of your own self-esteem and identity. True love makes you want to change, but in a way that improves the things you love about yourself.
8. Crushes make you give too much; true love fosters equality.
Are you constantly doing things for this person? Nagbibigay ka pa madalas ng gifts or ikaw nagbabayad kapag lumalabas kayo?While true love also makes you enjoy doing things for another person, these actions are reciprocated by your partner. There is a sense of give=and=take with true love. When you’re being overly giving, the relationship becomes draining and unhealthy for you.
9. Crushes develop quickly; true love takes time to grow.
When you first develop feelings for someone else, it’s fun and exciting. You feel happy and energized, and it can seem just like true love. However, the truth is that love always takes time to grow. True love is difficult, because it has to be resilient enough to survive the differences and disappointments you’ll encounter along the way to building a life together.
Crushes are all about enjoying someone’s company and being happy when things are going well. True love is constant, no matter what the circumstances are.
10. Crushes make you focus on what you feel; true love is more concerned with how the other person feels.
Ultimately, no matter how giving and self-sacrificing we may feel when we’re crushing on someone, the truth is that crushes are more about what we feel than how the other person feels. Kapag may crush tayo sa isang tao we mostly engage in a desperate behavior, making us try unreasonable things to change their mind if they’ve already made it clear that they don’t share our feelings.
True love is more concerned with the other person’s feelings. We respect their wishes, and we want to make them feel appreciated and understood.
Hopefully, this has helped you decide if what you’re experiencing is true love, or just a mere crush. Yes,we can't denu the fact that spending time with your crush and dreaming of being with them can feel wonderful, but if it can’t grow into love, you need to let them go. Doing so will make you free to grow as a person and find true love with someone who will make you feel understood and valued for who you are.
excerpt & paraphrase from Truelovetips