Using someone to move on..

[Chichacorn]

Mga paps.. pa advice naman..
So ganto kasi ung problema ko.
Last dec. Nag break up kami ng past relationship ko.. and kasalanan ng girl kong baket kami nag break. After 2 years of relation ship parang hirap ako mag move on. And now 2 weeks may nakilala ako na tropa ng friend ko. Which nasabi nya na type nya ko.. and ung saakin enentertain ko sya para maka limot sa ex ko. Hanggang kahapon nagkita kami un umamin na sya na gusto nya ko and kung gusto ko daw magkaron ng relationship sakanya. This past 2 weeks napakilala pa nya ko sa mga relatives nya. And every day hatid sundo ko sya lagi kami magkasama nakwento nya ung past relationship nya nag open up sya ng mga problema nya. Hnggang tinanong nya ko kung seryoso ba ako sa kanya. Yun na nga umamin ako na kaka galing ko lang sa break up and hindi pa ko ready magka relationship ulet. Ang sabi nya is Ok lang daw kahit mutual lang muna kami and kaya daw nya mag hintay basta hindi mag bago ung ugali ko towards sa kanya. Pero napapa isip ako, na hanggang friend lang ung kaya kong ibigay sakanya pero sinasabi nya na maghihintay daw sya hanggang magustuhan ko sya as a woman. Kaya ngayon hindi ko alam kung lalayo an ko ba sya or ipag papatuloy ko yung pagkikita namin..

 

[Plantpanthers]

maging totoo ka lang idol sa nararamdaman mo sabihin mo sakanya na hindi kapa handa and ayaw mong magi siyang rebound, give ur self some time to move on and heal muna and mas mainam sundin mo yung 3 months rule

 

[Dapsone]

"After 2 years and kaka galing ko lang sa break up " sobrang tagal na TS. pwes ur not open for a relationship. and ur not healing unless you move on. wag muna pahintayin or gamitin yung girl. becoz ur are NOT responsible enough to OPEN another relationship.

 

[Yukineee]

For me if it’s on you naman kung gusto mo may mangyari at gusto mo tlaga. Go lang, ipagpatuloy mo lang. But, if you only do it for pity, you better back off kasi makakasakit ka niyan par. The better you can do is ask yourself what’s the real deal here. Wag magbigay ng false hope kasi masakit yan. At the end of the day, it’s on you what you think is the right to do.

 

[Chichacorn]

maging totoo ka lang idol sa nararamdaman mo sabihin mo sakanya na hindi kapa handa and ayaw mong magi siyang rebound, give ur self some time to move on and heal muna and mas mainam sundin mo yung 3 months rule

Un nga idol eh nasabi ko na sakanya. Pero ang sabi nya hihintyin daw nya ako. Nag beg sya na kahit as friend lang daw basta wag ko syang layuan. Sinasabi nya lagi na what if.. pero sa ngayon tulad ng sabi ko. Hindi ko alam kung lalayuan ko ba sya kasi ung nasa isip ko baka ene entertain ko lang sya para hindi ko ma alala si ex ko pero grabe kasi si joji eh kinakantahan ako ng glimpse of us hahaha

"After 2 years and kaka galing ko lang sa break up " sobrang tagal na TS. pwes ur not open for a relationship. and ur not healing unless you move on. wag muna pahintayin or gamitin yung girl. becoz ur are NOT responsible enough to OPEN another relationship.

Yun nga po lods. Sinabi ko na saknya yun pero nag beg sya na wag ko daw syang layuan and iiwan.

For me if it’s on you naman kung gusto mo may mangyari at gusto mo tlaga. Go lang, ipagpatuloy mo lang. But, if you only do it for pity, you better back off kasi makakasakit ka niyan par. The better you can do is ask yourself what’s the real deal here. Wag magbigay ng false hope kasi masakit yan. At the end of the day, it’s on you what’s you think is the right to do.

Yun po lods. Nung sinabi ko nga po sakanya nag beg sya na mag stay ako and kahit as friends wag ko daw syang layuan.. pero na guguilty ako kasi kahit inamin ko ung feelings ko parang saakin ginagamit ko lang sya panakip butas. Kaya hindi ko alam kung lalayuan ko sya.

 

[C E S S]

Nahihirapan syang pakawalan ka alam mo kung bakit? Kasi ikaw mismo wala kang isang salita.

You don't want her to cling onto false hope yet you still continue entertaining her romantic interest which only fuels her obsession to grow.
Gusto mo nang realtalk? Avoid engaging in any intimate conversations with her para hindi na lumalim pa ang feelings nya sayo. Don't be always at her disposal o yung tipong palagi kang readily available sa kanya. Stop playing the 'Potential Boyfriend' with all the comforting sweet words and endearing gestures kasi you're only giving her room for opportunity to gradually develop strong feelings for you when you have no intentions of reciprocating. Don't keep her hanging by a thread and cut her loose, that's downright unfair. Minimize your interactions no matter how she plead.
Tandaan mo na yung primary objective mo is to prevent her from becoming more attached to you. If you genuinely wish to escape that situation, let your action speaks louder than words.

 

[Chichacorn]

Nahihirapan syang pakawalan ka alam mo kung bakit? Kasi ikaw mismo wala kang isang salita.

You don't want her to cling onto false hope yet you still continue entertaining her romantic interest which only fuels her obsession to grow.
Gusto mo nang realtalk? Avoid engaging in any intimate conversations with her para hindi na lumalim pa ang feelings nya sayo. Don't be always at her disposal o yung tipong palagi kang readily available sa kanya. Stop playing the 'Potential Boyfriend' with all the comforting sweet words and endearing gestures kasi you're only giving her room for opportunity to gradually develop strong feelings for you when you have no intentions of reciprocating. Don't keep her hanging by a thread and cut her loose, that's downright unfair. Minimize your interactions no matter how she plead.
Tandaan mo na yung primary objective mo is to prevent her from becoming more attached to you. If you genuinely wish to escape that situation, let your action speaks louder than words.

Etoo yung need ko idol.. thanks.. so pipilitin ko ba na layuan sya paps khit nag beg sya na mag stay ako? Kasi yung sakin naguguluhan ako kasi ayokong masaktan sya pero pag iniisip ko sa huli kong ipagppatuloy ko pa to masasaktan dn sya

 

[PHC_LaCe12]

tapat kanalang sa kanya na di mo sya gusto wag mo say gamitin para sa own benefits pangit talaga yan

so ts are you interested unto her or wala talaga?

 

[meteorchild]

as a respect sa previous relationship mo, hayaan mo namang ma process nung ex mo yung nangyari sainyo bago ka mag-entertain ng iba, minahal or mahal mo pa rin naman siguro yan at least magcare ka manlang sa possible na mararamdaman niya. and also, respeto na lang rin sa sarili mo, as a sign of decency, tingin mo ba tamang mag-entertain ka agad? hehe nasa sayo pa rin yan, nasa sayo ang sagot.

and kay ate girl naman, have some respect sa kapwa girlie mo. babae ka, hindi ka dapat maging rason in any way para maka sakit ng ibang babae, oo break na sila pero girl kaka break lang kasi. respeto mo rin naman sarili mo kababaeng tao papatol sa kaka break lang, ni hindi pa nga healed.

 

[epalkapala]

tapatin mo pre, hindi ka pa tapos mag mahal. and please don't destroy someone's life, ego if you're not ready to commit yet if hindi sure.

 

[8inchhotdog]

Malamang mas maganda si ex kesa sa new girl. Pag mas maganda kasi si new girl eh limot agad si ex. Gumamit din ako ng ibang babae para maka move on pero mas maganda pinili ko kaya bilis ko makamove on at nawala feelings kay ex maski na 6 years kami.

 

[Life_Exists_Beyond_Death]

same sit par,
pero wala akong ibang ineentettain hzh

 

[selfishpotato]

tigilan mo na yan maawa ka naman sa kanya. wag puro sarili mo. isipin mo. isipin mo din mararamdaman nya. ke maganda yan o hindi. itigil mo na yan.

 

[dan0318]

hirap yan aasa yan .
kung hindi ka pa handa limitahan mo nalang pagkikita nyo para magets ng guy na seryoso ka na di ready

 

[lemeul03]

maging totoo ka lang idol sa nararamdaman mo sabihin mo sakanya na hindi kapa handa and ayaw mong magi siyang rebound, give ur self some time to move on and heal muna and mas mainam sundin mo yung 3 months rule

Hindi totoo yung 3 months rule. Kulang ang 3 months kung totoong nag mahal ka. At papasok ka sa relasyon ng hindi kapa heal masasaktan mo lang yung magiging panakip butas mo at magiging konsensya mo yon